As with any relationship, the best place to start is with a clean slate and plenty of mutual respect. You’ll make it past a ton of relationship hurdles if you just bring an open mind and an attitude of respect to meet any challenges. But we have a few more tips that will help you get your new relationship off on the right foot. Keep reading to find out about the most important things you can do to make a relationship with a black guy work:
Be a Strong Woman
If your goal is to find a black man who completes you, or any man, for that matter, you have some emotional turmoil in your future. His job is not to complete you. That’s your job, girl: get complete yourself and then look for someone who can complement you and support you to be the best version of you. If you’re looking for a man who has the traits you don’t in the hopes that you’ll absorb some by osmosis, we have bad news for you. It never works. If you want to attract a strong man, you have to learn how to be a strong woman.
Start with a Clean Slate
The best way to ruin your relationship with a new partner is to convict him of the crimes your last partner committed. Stop assuming that your new guy is going to be just like your ex (and if you keep finding yourself dating the same, unavailable guy, maybe take a sec and look at your stuff? like with a therapist?). You can start things off on the right foot by letting this guy show you who he is and what he’s like and by showing up and being curious to see what the answers to those questions turn out to be.
If you want to scare him off before the first date even ends, or if you want to end it prematurely, start wedding planning. Regardless your stance on the subject, a first date is n opportunity to learn about each other and see if you two are compatible. Let him enjoy your company and get excited about learning more about you. If this relationship is heading for a wedding, relax and let it happen naturally. For now, focus on being you and showing him why he wants to get to know you better over more dates.
Have His Back
When it comes to dating any man, support can be one of the most important qualities you can offer. Let him know at the start that you have his back, and that could mean just supporting him and making things as easy as possible on your date. If he has goals, support them, if he doesn’t, you can encourage him without being overbearing. Because this is a person you have feelings for, we think it best to start with respect. From there, you can allow things to unfold naturally between the two of you. If you can get out of your own way and let him be the person he really is, you’ll find that black dating is more than you could have imagined.