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In this eBook, we share the most important things you need to know about staying safe with online and in-person dating. You’ve probably heard at least one devastating story about the harm caused by online dating scams. Most of us think we’d never fall for something like that, but then again, so do the people who do. DatePerfect is here to make the dating industry safer, more transparent, and more fun. And it all starts with the latest dating safety information.

We want this eBook to give you all the info you need to keep your heart, your wallet, and your personal information safe online. So what all will we cover in this eBook? We’ll start out by letting you know the most common types of online predators and teach you how to avoid them. We’ll look in depth at the most prevalent dating scams and explain how to best protect all the parts of you in the era of internet dating. Then we’ll take a long, hard look at catfishing and share some practical tips and tools to help keep those pesky scammers far, far away. Next, we’ll walk you through what to do about online harassment, cyberstalking, and dating violence. Finally, we’ll share some great ways to discover the best and safest dating sites available using some of technology’s best tools.

Want to know even more? Scroll down to see the full table of contents, as well as an excerpt from the eBook itself.

 

Staying Safe with Online and IRL Dating

  1. Staying Safe Online
  2. Different Types of Online Predators
  3. Online Dating Scams: The Most Common Types
  4. Romance Scams: Examples and Explanations
  5. Staying Safe When Meeting People Online
  6. Dating Site Scams and How to Avoid Them
  7. Tinder Scams
  8. POF Scams
  9. Online Dating Scammer Photos to Look Out For
  10. Romance Scammer Photos (Don’t Message These People!)
  11. Fake Profile Pictures: A Different Kind of Scam
  12. Catfishing Online and How to Avoid It
  13. What is Catfishing?
  14. Is Catfishing Illegal?
  15. Why is it Called Catfishing?
  16. How to Tell if Someone is Scamming you Online
  17. Think You’re Getting Catfished? Here’s What to Do
  18. How to Protect Yourself from Identity Theft
  19. Group Date Ideas: Safety in Numbers
  20. Why Emotional Security Matters
  21. What is Cyberstalking?
  22. Online Harassment
  23. What is Dating Violence?
  24. At Risk Populations: Putting Safety First
  25. Understanding the Dangers of Online Dating
  26. Teen Dating Violence: Protecting Your Child
  27. How to Protect Yourself on a Date
  28. The Safest Dating Sites
  29. Research Sites Using Dating Site Reviews
  30. Run a Dating Background Check

 

“Let’s talk about scammers who use one of the world’s most popular and well- known dating platforms: Tinder. Although Tinder’s doing its best to protect its users and keep scammers off its app, there are still plenty who make it on. Here are the different types of Tinder scams you should be on the lookout for:

  1. Catfishers: we’ll talk about catfishing in greater detail later on, but it’s definitely something that happens on Tinder and is worth mentioning. In its basic form, an online catfisher is someone who creates a fake persona on a dating site in an attempt to lure you into their made-up world. They’ll use fake information and profile pictures to manipulate you and gain your trust. Don’t fall for it.
  1. Bot profiles: online bots can appear to be real people on various dating sites and apps. Some dating sites will even create bot profiles to make their site seem better than it is. And, to avoid legal action, the sites using bot profiles will actually hide that info in their Terms and Conditions. These bots can either be on scammy websites or can be scammers on legitimate dating sites. You can identify bots by checking their profiles. They’ll usually only have a small number of photos and a very limited set of information that reveals pretty much nothing.
  1. Bot “verification code” scams: another type of bots on Tinder are ones that try to lure you into third-party websites by asking you to “verify” your profile. That website will seem legitimate but it’s actually totally fake and just wants to steal your information. Often these types of bots will ask for a credit card number. Once they get it, the scam site will charge you regularly. Never leave Tinder for a verification link. It’s not real. And if you get messages like this, definitely report them to the site admin.”

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Chances are, this isn’t your first online dating rodeo. You’re probably slightly disillusioned by dating in general, but you haven’t given up hope of finding what you need on a dating site. You fully realize that online dating is awkward and lends itself to all kinds of creepy human pitfalls. But you also know it’s an amazing technology. You’re sure there are ways to get around the weirdness and cringey dating site mishaps so that you can actually find what you want and need. Welcome to the solution.

DatePerfect is here to make online dating a little less frustrating and a little more fun. That’s why this eBook is full of info to help you date better. So what exactly do we cover here? We’ll start off by helping you learn to talk to girls and guys online and in person. Maybe you’re still coming out of an awkward face (seriously though, who isn’t?) and you want to learn how to ask someone out without feeling like you’re a bumbling 12-year-old. We’ve got you covered. We’ll share some suggestions for how to approach dates, including how to get them, where to go, what to wear, what to talk about, and, equally important, what not to talk about. We’ll even help you get that elusive second date! We’ll finish up by helping you understand when to have that DTR convo and a few different examples of the most common modern relationships.

Ready for even more? Scroll down to check out the table of contents, as well as an excerpt from the eBook itself.

 

Online Dating Tips for the Jaded and Disillusioned

  1. How to Talk to Girls (and Not Look Like a Loser)
  2. How to Talk to a Girl Online
  3. What to Talk About with a Girl
  4. What to Talk About with a Guy
  5. How to Talk to a Guy You Like
  6. How to Ask Someone Out and Not Feel Dumb
  7. How to Ask a Girl Out
  8. Cute Ways to Ask a Girl Out
  9. How to Ask a Guy Out and not Hate Yourself After
  10. How to Get a Guy to Ask You Out and Make Him Think It Was His Idea
  11. So It Didn’t Work Out: There Are Still Plenty of Fish in the Sea
  12. Get the Most Out of Your Dating Profile
  13. What is a Date?
  14. How to Start Dating if You’ve Never Done It Before
  15. How to Get a Date
  16. How to Date in the Modern Age (with as Little Angst as Possible)
  17. What to Talk About on a Date (Without Seeming Lame or Oversharing)
  18. Small Talk Topics that You Should Definitely Avoid
  19. How to Not be Awkward on a Date
  20. What to Talk About on a First Date to Seem Cooler than You Are
  21. Questions to Ask on a First Date that Won’t Scare Your Date Away
  22. What to Wear on a First Date
  23. First Date Tips to Help You Break that Ice
  24. First Date Ideas that Won’t Suck
  25. How to Get a Second Date
  26. Second Date Ideas (You Saucy Minx!)
  27. Dating vs Relationship: How to Figure it Out
  28. Different Types of Relationships

“And while you may be just another guy in a sea of shirtless mirror selfies (it’s not our recommended profile pic strategy, btw), the truth is that you’re unique. That whole no-one-stands-out and everyone-looks-the-same feelings are an illusion. And there’s no quicker way to let her know than by standing out in conversation. We really can’t stress this point enough. This means that there is literally no excuse for you to send a message to a cute girl that just says “hi” or “what’s up,” or, worse still, “wyd?” Unless you’re like a male underwear model or something, in which case you might be able to get away with letting your abs do the talking.

Some playful teasing in online conversation can work surprisingly well. But please be aware that sarcasm doesn’t necessarily translate, so don’t say things that are just rude or could be easily misinterpreted. Keep it light and playful. Like, if all her pictures are with her beloved dog, Pupperina, you can tease her about already having a committed life partner. Plus, Pupperina? there’s some definite material there in terms of dog naming if you want it. So try something cute and lighthearted. Even if she’s annoyed, things are actually still working out okay for you. Why? First of all, she got back to you. And now that you have her attention, it shouldn’t be all that hard to change her opinion about you.

Don’t try to act cool or cocky if you’re just not. Remember, you don’t have the abs for that. And please don’t fall into the trap of complete disinterest or apathy. That strategy usually falls short and can make you seem arrogant and difficult to talk to.”

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We can all agree on one thing: breakups f*cking suck. But we think that with a little help and a lot of info maybe they can suck just a little bit less. If you’re getting over a breakup or think you might be getting over one soon, this eBook is for you. Its electronic pages won’t double as crinkly and abrasive tissues the way pages from a real book would, but maybe its contents can offer you something even better. DatePerfect wants to make everything dating-related a little simpler, easier, and more fun. And that’s good news for you if you’re picking up the pieces of your broken heart, eating ice cream for dinner, and you can’t stop listening to Cat Power (or whatever your personal breakup recovery plan looks like).

So, what kind of stuff can you expect to find in this eBook? We’ll start with everything pre-breakup, like knowing when, why, and how to breakup. We’ll talk about what it looks like to end a long term relationship, break up with someone you love, and how to help yourself heal after. Then we walk you through all our best tips and suggestions for dealing with that tender, broken heart. This includes info like how to get over someone, how to move on, and how long it takes to get over a breakup. We’ll end on a positive note by helping you decide when you’re ready to start dating again, how to get back in the dating scene, and, for better or for worse, how to fall for someone all over again. Better to have loved and lost, right?

Want to know even more? Scroll down to see the table of contents, as well as an excerpt from one of the chapters of this eBook.

How to Break Up with Someone and Make It Suck a Little Less
1. Breakups Suck but They Can Suck Less
2. When is It Time to Break Up? (Before it’s Toxic, Please)
3. Knowing when to Break up and Why
4. How to Break up: The Best Ways to Do It
5. How to Deal with a Breakup
6. Break It off Clean
7. I Don’t Know What to Say (so Here Are Some Tips)
8. How to Know when to Break Up
9. Should We Break Up?
10. How to End a Relationship
11. Breaking up with Someone You Love
12. Ending a Long Term Relationship
13. How to Break up with Your Boyfriend
14. How to Break up with Your Girlfriend
15. Signs of a Toxic Relationship
16. Managing Emotions After a Breakup
17. What to Do After a Breakup
18. How to Get over a Breakup
19. How to Heal a Broken Heart
20. How to Get over Someone
21. How to Get over a Guy
22. How to Get over a Girl
23. How to Move on After a Breakup
24. Getting over a Long Term Relationship
25. How Long Does It Take to Get over a Breakup?
26. Am I Ready to Date?
27. How to Start Dating After a Breakup
28. Learning to Love Again
29. Success Is the Best Revenge

If you feel wronged by your ex, learning to forgive them and yourself is the ultimate goal. No, forgiveness doesn’t mean that you condone what they did to harm you. What it actually means is that you no longer have to be burdened by that hurt. Until you forgive them, they’ll be occupying space in your mind period. Don’t let them live in your head rent-free like that! They’re taking up space that you could devote to something nourishing like your friendships or getting to know someone new.

Let yourself have whatever feelings you do and try to let them move through you. It’s normal to feel angry or depressed or hopeless at times. When the feelings come, see if you can feel them and move on. It’s healthy and normal to have big feelings after a breakup.

When you’re ready, open yourself up to new relationships. It may take a bit of time or it may not. It can sometimes be a mistake to get into another relationship immediately following a breakup. But we won’t judge! You shouldn’t feel bad for looking for another partner right away nor should you feel pressured into entering another relationship before you’re ready.

Only after you’ve fully moved on and let go have you really “ended the relationship.” Because at that moment, the person no longer has emotional dominance in your mind. You’re free to let someone or something new occupy you the way they used to.

In this eBook we’re really going for it, farts and all. Seriously, get ready for the major levels of intimacy the LTR requires. If you’re in a long term relationship that feels a little unenthusiastic, we’ve got a bunch of good stuff to help you add some spark, passion, and connection to your relationship. Or if you’re dating someone you really like and think you’re in store for some long term loving, this eBook has a bunch of useful info to help you make it last.

Want to know more about what we will we cover in this eBook? We’ll get things started by looking at what kind of groundwork you can do personally to prepare for the intimacy and closeness of longterm love. Next, we’ll get messy and look at the actual process of falling in love, including how long it takes to fall in love, what love feels like, and when to say those three little words. From there, we’ll dive into compatibility and the other factors that help to keep love going strong, before offering some actionable tips for how to rekindle love and romance in a LTR. We also have plenty to say about facing relationship problems together, the importance of communication, and how to have fun and be active with some couple activities (that don’t suck, we promise). We’ll end on a sexy note by sharing our suggestions for how to keep things spicy in the bedroom and passionate period.

Looking for even more of the good stuff? Scroll down to read the full table of contents and read an excerpt from the eBook itself.

How to Love Long Term: Desire, Romance, and Farts
1. What is a Relationship?
2. Love Yourself First (Any Bieber Fans out There?)
3. Am I Ready for a Relationship?
4. The Long Term Relationship
5. How Long Does It Take to Fall in Love?
6. What Does Love Feel Like?
7. When to Say I Love You (Hint: Not the First Time You Have Sex)
8. The True Definition of Love that even Your Grandma Would Agree With
9. Love Compatibility: Beyond the Zodiac Chart
10. Are Soulmates even a Thing?
11. Couples in Love: What They All Do
12. The Honeymoon Phase and Beyond
13, Romantic Gestures for the Cynical
14. Signs of a Healthy Relationship
15. The Stages of Love (Including the Fart Stage)
16. How to Rekindle a Relationship
17. How to Make a Relationship Last
18. Facing Relationship Problems Together
19. Celebrating Relationship Milestones
20. Why is Communication Important?
21. Communication in Relationships
22. How to Be a Better Husband
23. How to Be a Better Wife
24. Hobbies for Couples (It’s Dorky, but Come On)
25. Couples Activities that You’ll Actually Enjoy
26. How to Keep a Committed Relationship Hot
27. Foreplay Ideas to Keep it Racy in the Bedroom
28. Different Sex Positions to Spice it Up
29. Passionate Love that Lasts

We’ve all heard people talk about their “one true love” or “forever soulmate.” But what is a soulmate? Usually, it’s the one and only person who’d make the perfect partner for you. But is that even a real thing?

In our quest for information, we asked the internet. The great goddess Google told us that a soulmate is “a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner.” This definition makes it sound like a real thing. And we’ve probably all heard friends claim they’ve met their soulmate. And hey, more power to them.

But at DatePerfect, we’re data experts. So let’s look at the numbers. We like the perspective in a book called What If? The author looks at the idea of a soulmate in terms of number and data. With this kind of logical and mathematical approach, the notion of a single soulmate doesn’t really hold up. If we presume that every person in the world has one soulmate around their age, you’d have to live 10,000 lifetimes in order to even see your soulmate as a stranger on the street. Hm, we’re not loving those odds.

After a particularly rough breakup, Amy Main found an unusual way to get over her ex: Go on 40 Dates in 40 Nights. The ground rules:

  • A date a day for 40 days
  • All dates using Tinder only
  • Maximum of three dates with the same guy
  • No sex till monogamy

But it turns out that just because dozens of potential guys are a phone swipe away doesn’t mean that dating is easy! Amy finds that following her own rules is a lot more difficult and exhausting than she expects.

Based on the viral blog of the same name, 40 Dates & 40 Nights is the fun and mind-boggling account of Amy’s experiences riding the Tinder roller coaster of romance with hot flings, awkward meals, and genuine connection.

Online Dating Is Hard? Especially For Men

You have to put yourselves out there, reaching out to woman after woman, hoping for some sort of response, handling rejection after rejection.

It’s frustrating.

And sometimes you just want to know what you’ve done wrong?

  • Why didn’t that woman respond?
  • Why did she suddenly stop communicating?

Well?there are lots of reasons.

You may be coming off as a douchebag and just not know it.

Hell, you may be a douchebag who just doesn’t know how to target his efforts properly. Or you may just need a little help. That’s where Cassie Leigh comes in. She’ll give it to you straight, no punches pulled.

If you’ve been at this a while and just can’t figure out what you’re doing wrong, this is the book for you.

(If you’re new to online dating check out Online Dating for Men: The Basics first. And if you’re good at getting dates but then can’t get past the second or third date, check out You Have a Date, Don’t F It Up.)

Since Darwin’s day, we’ve been told that sexual monogamy comes naturally to our species. Mainstream science–as well as religious and cultural institutions–has maintained that men and women evolved in families in which a man’s possessions and protection were exchanged for a woman’s fertility and fidelity. But this narrative is collapsing. Fewer and fewer couples are getting married, and divorce rates keep climbing as adultery and flagging libido drag down even seemingly solid marriages.

How can reality be reconciled with the accepted narrative? It can’t be, according to renegade thinkers Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá. While debunking almost everything we “know” about sex, they offer a bold alternative explanation in this provocative and brilliant book.

Ryan and Jethá’s central contention is that human beings evolved in egalitarian groups that shared food, child care, and, often, sexual partners. Weaving together convergent, frequently overlooked evidence from anthropology, archaeology, primatology, anatomy, and psychosexuality, the authors show how far from human nature monogamy really is. Human beings everywhere and in every era have confronted the same familiar, intimate situations in surprisingly different ways. The authors expose the ancient roots of human sexuality while pointing toward a more optimistic future illuminated by our innate capacities for love, cooperation, and generosity.

With intelligence, humor, and wonder, Ryan and Jethá show how our promiscuous past haunts our struggles over monogamy, sexual orientation, and family dynamics. They explore why long-term fidelity can be so difficult for so many; why sexual passion tends to fade even as love deepens; why many middle-aged men risk everything for transient affairs with younger women; why homosexuality persists in the face of standard evolutionary logic; and what the human body reveals about the prehistoric origins of modern sexuality.
In the tradition of the best historical and scientific writing, Sex at Dawn unapologetically upends unwarranted assumptions and unfounded conclusions while offering a revolutionary understanding of why we live and love as we do.